Ever felt a wee bit self-conscious peeling off your clothes for a massage in the dead of winter, when your body feels ‘softer’ than usual? Kinda like when you go to the dermatologist for an annual skin check, have to remove all your clothes and put on a paper thin gown, then wait in the cold office for the male dermatologist to come in and scrutinize your entire body, sometimes with a magnifying glass? Awkward! Like these situations, exposing your financial reality by sharing your numbers (debt, savings, income, spending habits) with a financial coach can cause anxiety and fear of being judged. Yet the beautiful truth is, inviting in support and getting financially naked is a radical act of self care.
Risk and discomfort beget reward.
Women are really good at intuitively knowing what’s good for us. We choose to expose our winter softness in order to reap the benefits of massage. We don’t enjoy the the dermatology appointment, but we can anticipate the beneficial outcome (relief that we’re in good health). So, we simply push through the awkward moments.
It’s time to catch up to the men.
Remember those old movies with fancy people at large dinner parties..where after the last course was served, the men would “retire” to the study to drink expensive liqueur and talk about business and risk and money, while women were left to talk about everything but those topics? Generally speaking, in that era women were simply not encouraged to get smart about money. Unfortunately, married women who still defer bigger financial decision-making to their spouses may be exposing themselves to too much risk. And single women who aren’t sure who to go to for financial guidance can also be at risk. (Ask me about the huge financial gaffe I almost made in 2017…if I hadn’t brought in a CPA to crunch some numbers for me, I’d be in a totally different financial situation than I am today).
Financial wellness is a radical act of self care.
Another reason why committing to financial wellness is a radical act of self-care involves gaining control and moving forward. Making our way through the world in the 21st century is simply way more expensive and complex, and we need strategies to optimize our use of money and reduce money stress. The rules of money have always been different for women, and there’s never been a better time to peel off those layers and embrace the truth.
Here’s how we get deliberate with our digits.
Working with a financial coach means you get to choose where you are headed. You choose to define financial wellness on your terms. Together we look at your numbers, put them in digital format, figure out how much money you want or need each year to live your best life now and in the future. We’ll identify the ‘gap’ if it exists and develop strategies to fill it. We’ll create a a conscious spending plan that prioritizes where your valuable dollars go. And all along the way, we’re shining a deliberate light on your soul’s relationship to money, healing and letting go the myths and mindsets that have held you back.
Are you in?
When we show up to invest in our financial and overall wellness, over time we reap the rewards. When you invite in emotional and strategic support, you start walking through the world with confidence and conviction. And then, one day, when that magic ‘crossover moment’ arrives, we can stop trading our time for money, and choose to spend our precious time fulfilling our heart’s desire. Now doesn’t that seem well worth a few awkward moments of risk and exposure?
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I invite you to sign up here to receive money mastery tips, resources, and private coaching opportunities. My first live, online group program starts Monday, January 27 and lasts 3 months. (Not to worry…you don’t have to share your financial data with the group! I’ve built in 1:1 private sessions with me into the program for that). Learn more about the program or book a free Discovery Call with me live.